Bars, nightclubs, and parties have a bad reputation for a lot of men and women alike. The atmosphere is loud and harsh. Alcohol is flowing and people are drunk.
Women have their defenses dialed all the way up. How are they to know that you aren’t just another low life pick up artist? Their suspicions and defenses are justified because many losers set up shop in these kinds of places.
Here are some alternatives with a relaxed setting where women have their guard down:
1.) Bookstores. A Bookstore is a great non-threatening spot to meet women. Unlike the loud, smoke filled, alcohol laden bar, a bookstore is a pleasant cozy place.
Bookstores have narrow aisles allowing you to get within close proximity of women without setting off defensive alarms. At any point you can switch from researching books to researching women and back again.
A great benefit to bookstores is that a woman’s interests are as transparent as the title of the book she’s holding or name of the aisle that she’s browsing in. Want to meet women that share your particular interests? Just hang around the book aisles or magazine racks that interest you. Women browsing in these places will have the same interest.
Want to do some field research into what topics are most popular with women? Just find the spots in the store that have the most women browsers.
Perhaps the best bookstores of all are a combination bookstore and coffee shop. After chatting it up with someone in front of a magazine rack, you can ask if she’d like a coffee and you’ve now progressed on to your first ‘date’.
2.) Dog Parks (or any park that people walk their dogs). Own a dog? If you do and you really love dogs, then you have a place to meet women (the park), an approach strategy (let your dog approach the girls dog), and something in common to talk about (take a guess).
Women are attracted to men that love animals, because to them it probably means that you’re good with kids which makes you good father material. Getting married and having kids may be the last thing on a woman’s mind, but never the less she will find you more attractive. This attraction operates on a subconscious level.
3.) Any place that involves a lot of waiting. A good example of such a place is the DMV. The waiting can last for hours and chat of any kind is a welcome relief from the boredom. Because of the long waiting times, there is ample opportunity to get to know a woman very well.
4.) At a gym. This is your chance to show off your athletic body and to allow it to do some of the ‘selling’ for you. Gyms are great because the women you meet there frequent it on a regular basis. Because she’s already seen you there several times before, she’s already familiar with you. This makes approaching her a great deal easier.
5.) At work. This suggestion has its risks. If the relationship doesn’t work out, the fallout can potentially affect your job performance and how your coworkers and boss interact with you. This can work if she works in a different department on a different floor of a large company where your job doesn’t require interaction with her. This could be someone you’ve met in the cafeteria or outside, etc.
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The workplace (Number Five) is not a wise place to meet someone. The expression “Don’t look for a honey where you earn your money” was coined for a reason.
NO, not the WORKPLACE! Never ever do that unless you have a job you don’t care for. There are waay too many scenarios that may and do take place in this type of situation. A few would include: drama at the workplace, jealousy from co workers (and supervisors), distraction and limited breathing room as well. Try finding a woman that when at the end of the day you have something to talk about!
Good advice. A friend of mine met his future wife at his place of employment. In his case she was working in a different department on another floor in a very large company. So it depends on the situation. I may change this post reflect this and spell out the pros and cons of doing this.
what about aproaching my costumer since i work at a retail store
I believe in the above places and I will try one or two places
i tried to met my future in a book store and it worked, all the places above are important and i will try more.
Different places where I’ve been in conversation with men.
- At the college cafeteria
- An outing with a family friend’s cousin’s family.
- In university
- In a hobby store (tabletop games)
- On the sidewalk while walking home
- Bus stop
- At the beach
- Lining up at the food kiosk at a food court
- At a rehearsal for a theater performance
- At National Service
- Online – and he turned out to be who he said he was.
@Astarte45 – Nice list. The bus stop also reminds me of an airport as well. While you are on the bus or on a plane there’s that person sitting next to you. Opportunity can strike in many places except at home in front of the TV.
can 5th place be replaced..???
@dev – I’ve rewritten it to reflect the inherent risks. Thanks.