Here’s a classic scenario that’s been happening all over the world since the beginning of time (well, not really). You notice a beautiful girl and she becomes aware of your glances. In the span of a few seconds you decide to do nothing and then just go about your business. This is a very common daily experience that a lot of guys won’t admit to.

Sometimes a brave soul will just go for it and approach her anyway. When he reaches her with a blanked out mind and a racing pulse, he does or says something causing an awkward moment for both him and the girl. Later that day he tries his best to suppress all memories of his humiliation.
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There’s plenty of obvious female turn offs like poor hygiene, ratty clothing, rotten teeth, being a total jerk, laughing milk through your nose, etc.

But there are also subtle turn offs for women that you may be doing without knowing it.

These types of turn offs signal her that you’re weak or lacking the qualities that women instinctively desire.

These turn offs are:

1.) Not having enough confidence. Women are attracted to strength. This has its origins back in the days when men had to hunt for their food and had to physically protect their woman from real dangers as well as from other men. When a man feels strong, capable, and in control, it shows in his behavior.
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First dates can be a stressful time for most people. This is especially true for the guy who’s been out of the dating scene for a while.

This stress comes from the common fears about not knowing what to say or do with someone you know very little about. Fears about things going badly and rejection also play a big part.

Knowing what to do is the best way to cope with this stress. Here are a some first date pointers.

1.) It’s probably not the best idea to take her to a movie. Why is that? Because you can’t do any talking which makes it impossible to find out what sort of person she is.

It’s also done too much. Doing the usual standard stuff isn’t the recipe for a fun date.

You could try an activity based date such as hiking, skiing, wine tasting, amusement park, driving range, or a softball game. Knowing something of your date’s interests helps a lot with your choice of place or activity.

After you’ve finished your activity, eating out at a nice place is a good idea. Avoid going to a super expensive or fancy place as this makes it seem as if you’re trying very hard to impress her or buy her.
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As I mentioned in a previous post, being an introvert isn’t a bad thing. As a matter of fact, it is a strength because it makes you unique.

Being different in a positive way is what makes you stand out in a crowd. It means you’re not average, you don’t blend in. The day you can stand out in a confident way where you make no bones about the person you truly are, is the day you’ve gained power over your life.

Trying to covert yourself into an extrovert is either impossible or extremely difficult. Why put so much effort into becoming a second rate extrovert when it’s so much easier to just play up your strengths as an introvert?

There are many women out there who are attracted to thinking people who have depth, that is, introverts.

But in order to get your strengths to work for you, you absolutely must get over your shyness. Whether it’s a general social shyness or just a shyness around women, shyness severely limits what you can get out of life. As I’ve stated previously, introversion and shyness are too different things.
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Bars, nightclubs, and parties have a bad reputation for a lot of men and women alike. The atmosphere is loud and harsh. Alcohol is flowing and people are drunk.

Women have their defenses dialed all the way up. How are they to know that you aren’t just another low life pick up artist? Their suspicions and defenses are justified because many losers set up shop in these kinds of places.

Here are some alternatives with a relaxed setting where women have their guard down:

1.) Bookstores. A Bookstore is a great non-threatening spot to meet women. Unlike the loud, smoke filled, alcohol laden bar, a bookstore is a pleasant cozy place.
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