The first kiss can be an big stumbling block for a lot of men. If you’re on a date, it’s expected. On the other hand the lady that you’re dating has never been kissed by you before.
How will she react? Will she pull away? Maybe she’ll think that you’re coming on too strong and you’ll scare her away. These and other similar thoughts are very common.
Some guys will opt for not dealing with the issue at all and won’t make any attempt. Others will ask for permission. Both are mistakes for two reasons:
1.) You’re hurting yourself because you’re telling her that you lack backbone. This is a big turn off for many women.
2.) You’re hurting her because you’re depriving her of her big romantic moment. This is when the strong confident man takes charge and sweeps her off her feet. The confident man doesn’t ask for permission, he takes control.
If you’ve ever peaked inside of those romantic novels that some women read, the first kiss is a really big deal. Romantic novels are popular with women for good reason.
Anticipation, tension, the back and forth progression toward the inevitable act that changes two strangers into…lovers. This is the stuff of female fantasy. If she’s into you, this is what she wants you to do. She wants you to take her and kiss her.
Note the key phrase: ‘if she’s into you’. If she detests you or if there’s just no chemistry, then kissing her is a mistake. So, how do you know if she wants to be kissed?
You should be looking for signs of attraction. These are revealed through conscious and subconscious signals. Look for these signs:
1.) Physical contact.
She initiates physical contact with you ‘accidentally’. This is a very strong indicator of interest. Some examples:
- Her hand brushes across your arm or hand.
- Her fingers slide across your hand when you hand something to her.
- Her nails rake across your palm when handing something to her.
- She finds an excuse to grasp your hand such as reading your palm.
- She stumbles and holds on to you for support.
2.) Eye contact.
-She locks eyes with you.
-You catch her stealing glances at you. She may hold eye contact or quickly look away when she knows she’s been caught.
-She explores your face with her eyes and spends time looking at your lips.
-Her pupils are dilated.
3.) Physical proximity.
She leans in close. Perhaps she does this when she asks you to check something on her menu. When you’re walking together, she walks well inside of your personal space.
4.) She plays with her hair.
5.) She may adjust your collar. This is a very strong sign. When she does this, she’s taking possession of you.
6.) When you’re making your move to kiss her, she may lick or part her lips and her breathing deepen.
If you’re getting signs from her but want to be even more certain, then you can start the kiss with some preliminaries. These would be softly touching her hair or taking her hand in yours and intently gazing into her eyes and on her lips. If she doesn’t pull away then she’s ready.
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Just gotta know, if she swallows alot, does that mean she wants to kiss. We were sitting in her car, so its quiet, and i can hear her swallowing often. Is there like some kind of saliva buildup when someone wants to kiss?
It could be a medical condition or she may be feeling nervous. If she only does this in the car with you it’s probably nervousness. Nervousness could mean that she’s anticipating being kissed. If you’re getting indications that she likes you, then take her hand first. If she pulls back, she doesn’t want to be kissed. If not, kiss her gently.
Whenever I’m at her door step she starts looking at her hands and began to ramble a lot. And i wonder to myself is she interested so should i kiss her hand, or go for the big one. Never had this problem with any other girl but her.
Hi, its kinda complicated. there is a girl who i really like a huge amount, she knows this, yet often she sits with me, resting her head on my shoulders and staring into my eyes. the other night we were at a sleepover with a few mates and me and her get an armchair together, we slept with our heads rested on eachother. things like this keep happening between us, kisses on cheek etc. but the thing is she knows i like her, so surely she would say something if she liked me? anyway, i was wondering if when she looks into my eyes i should go to kiss her? or wehter im getting the wrong signals here?
Hi. So she knows you like her and she still hangs around with you. That’s good. She hasn’t said anything. She may be waiting for you to make the first move. If you wait too long on this, she may start to lose interest. Think of it this way: you want the relationship to go to the next level. If you don’t make your feelings known, nothing will change. If she rejects you, you can move on. Nothing risked, nothing gained. Good luck.
a girl , she talks to me gently and never hurt me . i love her her movements say that she is in love with me
but she did not speak a word about love i just want to attract her move . she stares at my lips always and i smile i could’nt speak a word is she really want me to kiss her ?
i like a girl so much and i hope she also likes me . but she is married we have gone for a date also for few hours … i also told her that i like her or love her … earlier she called me a lot but after our dating she looses some interest …she not called me earlier which she used to do …. now she only messeges less than before… but tell me how i know that she is hoping some kiss or something … which i not do …. ialso gave her gifts … which she accepted … and one day i gave her fly kissto her whih she saw …. u tell me can i kiss her is there green signal for me … or she’s making mew folll…………
She is married. It isn’t worth your time pursuing her.
hi.i lyk a girl n so she does.v chat on msn n as well on msgs.i often meet her n vn she meets me she is so happy.i v evn proposed her bt she reject she says tht she lves me bt cant b vth me of sme reasons.she also doesnt want me 2 leave her nor i can do so.
Smetmes vn v sit 2egther on pc she sits so close to me the her laps touches my laps.many times i v softly touched her cheeks.smetmes she says dnt do sometmes she smils n say tht imnt ur gf
So gve me a tip 2kiss her n wt should i do
You can start the kiss with some preliminaries. These would be softly touching her hair or taking her hand in yours and intently gazing into her eyes and on her lips. If she doesn’t pull away then she’s ready.
well, i told this girl that i like her.. a lot. she said she kinda liked me. ok, so i was coming back from football practice, and she was walking alone, so i said “are you going home” she said yes, so i walked her home, talking about what was happening with us (this whole “liking” thing has been going on for about a month). so we got to her house, and she was locked-on staring at me. but i knew about the whole lip-licking thing and the dilated pupil thing, but she didn’t lick her lips, and her pupils weren’t big at all, so i gave her a hug… should i have kissed her? this was only last night, so i’m not really backtracking with our “thing” i’m guessing. btw, when i mean staring, i mean DEAD-LOCK staring lol.
Prolonged eye contact is a very good sign. A kiss would have worked but there is always the next time you’re together. The more you see each other, the more things naturally build up and expectations increase.