There’s plenty of obvious female turn offs like poor hygiene, ratty clothing, rotten teeth, being a total jerk, laughing milk through your nose, etc.

But there are also subtle turn offs for women that you may be doing without knowing it.

These types of turn offs signal her that you’re weak or lacking the qualities that women instinctively desire.

These turn offs are:

1.) Not having enough confidence. Women are attracted to strength. This has its origins back in the days when men had to hunt for their food and had to physically protect their woman from real dangers as well as from other men. When a man feels strong, capable, and in control, it shows in his behavior.

He feels and acts confident. Women associate male confidence with strength. Women are extremely good at sensing this and can spot this quality from a mile away.

The confident man doesn’t show off or boast about himself or his accomplishments. He demonstrates it in more subtle and quiet ways. He can confidently handle himself in any situation.

2.) Having a weak character. Women are interested in men, not little boys. There are a number of traits that a person should have in order to be a real man. Some of these are decisiveness, honor, generosity to people, integrity, courage, conviction, leadership, humility, and being calm under pressure. These are the old fashion traits that most people have heard of at one time or other.

3.) Being a liar. Not telling the truth to smooth things over or to make it easier to score with a woman is nothing but deception. Deception in advertising and business is illegal. Deception in relationships is immoral and scummy.

It’s a strategy that will fail. Lies are easily found out by contradictions in your own words and actions as well as through other people who know that you’re a liar. It does not take a genius to discover a lie. It only takes a little time.

4.) Doesn’t make the first move. Most women want you to make the first move. That means asking them out rather than hoping that they’ll do it for you. It means initiating the first kiss.

It means doing all of the things that we men are expected to do first. These things almost always carry some risk of rejection. Why must we take all of the risks? Again, it comes down to the requirement that men are supposed to be strong and confident (see point #1 above). So take the initiative.

5.) Needs a caretaker or a second mother. Women (as well as many guys) love kids and helpless cute puppies. However, needy men who seek nurture are a real turn off for women. If you can’t take care of your own needs how can you possibly look after a woman and a family?

6.) Lacking spontaneity. Women crave excitement and romance. In order for this to happen, some spontaneity on your part will be called for. Spontaneity can be cultivated though not easily for some people. But it’s the key to being funny, adventurous, and romantic.

7.) Always asking for permission. Always asking for permission is a way of avoiding risk of rejection. It also shows that you’re not quite sure of yourself, that you can’t make decisions. It’s a way of seeking approval.

All of these are signs of weakness, a definite turnoff. Subordinates and children always ask permission. People of low status ask people of high status for permission.

8.) Being nervous and insecure. These are some of the symptoms of lacking confidence which is covered above (point #1).

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