For some, the idea of getting more skilled at socializing with strangers, approaching, attracting and dating women can be a scary prospect. It only seems that way because you’re imagining yourself doing all of those things right now. Remember that you will overcome shyness gradually by taking many small steps along the way.

Imagine the first day at a new job that you have little previous experience for. If you were expected to assume your full responsibilities right away without training, it would be a disaster.

But with time you find yourself easily mastering the responsibilities of your job. You might even think back at how unnecessary it was to be nervous during your first few days.

This is true with mastering any new skill. Socializing and dating are nothing more than skill sets and can be learned like any other. You only need the will to go ahead and just do it.

More suggestions to help you:
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I hope that the last post has convinced you that you don’t need a personality transplant to attract women. Taking the simplest route is best for solving most problems.

That means being true to yourself while honing your confidence and social skills. Your life experiences have made you who you are right now. It’s far easier to work the confidence and social skills than to erase your identity and start over from scratch.

Here are more suggestions at how to beat your shyness and comfortably interact with women:

1.) Learn how to externalize your focus away from your yourself and on to the situation at hand.
Anytime you’re talking with a person whether a store keeper, bank teller, your sister, or anyone at all, practice on focusing 100% on what they’re talking about.
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As I mentioned in a previous post, being an introvert isn’t a bad thing. As a matter of fact, it is a strength because it makes you unique.

Being different in a positive way is what makes you stand out in a crowd. It means you’re not average, you don’t blend in. The day you can stand out in a confident way where you make no bones about the person you truly are, is the day you’ve gained power over your life.

Trying to covert yourself into an extrovert is either impossible or extremely difficult. Why put so much effort into becoming a second rate extrovert when it’s so much easier to just play up your strengths as an introvert?

There are many women out there who are attracted to thinking people who have depth, that is, introverts.

But in order to get your strengths to work for you, you absolutely must get over your shyness. Whether it’s a general social shyness or just a shyness around women, shyness severely limits what you can get out of life. As I’ve stated previously, introversion and shyness are too different things.
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Are you an introvert? If you are, don’t be too hard on yourself because you’ve got a lot going for you. To start with I’d like to make it clear that introversion is not the same as shyness.

Because introverts get their energy from within themselves rather than from others (as extroverts do) they tend to lag in the social skills. This can make them awkward and uncomfortable in social situations. So introverts can suffer from shyness but there are many introverts who do not.

Know that you are not alone in the world. Thirty percent of the world’s population are introverts.

Some examples of successful introverts: Johnny Carson, Neil Armstrong, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Jerry Seinfeld, Tiger Woods, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, and Steven Spielberg.

When it comes to getting women, being an introvert means that you will go after certain types of women that are compatible with your personality type. It would also be advisable to meet women in places more suitable to your temperament. So this probably rules out the noisy bars and night clubs of your extroverted brethren.
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