In in a previous post, I discussed how the wrong body language will kill your efforts at attracting girls. When you’ve mastered your body language, there is something else that can also defeat you: what your face is telling her.

The human face has a core set of five muscles that are used to convey the basic emotional states of happiness, anger, fear, surprise, sadness and disgust.

But there are up to 19 additional muscles that assist in conveying other emotions. Evolution has wired our brains to show our emotional states through these facial muscles.

Our facial expressions truly are a window into our soul. Unless you’re a trained actor, it’s very hard to cover up your feelings of the moment.

Most people are fairly good at reading facial expressions. However, women excel at this. If you’re out meeting women and you aren’t enjoying yourself, then you should save yourself the trouble and do something else.
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There’s plenty of obvious female turn offs like poor hygiene, ratty clothing, rotten teeth, being a total jerk, laughing milk through your nose, etc.

But there are also subtle turn offs for women that you may be doing without knowing it.

These types of turn offs signal her that you’re weak or lacking the qualities that women instinctively desire.

These turn offs are:

1.) Not having enough confidence. Women are attracted to strength. This has its origins back in the days when men had to hunt for their food and had to physically protect their woman from real dangers as well as from other men. When a man feels strong, capable, and in control, it shows in his behavior.
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Using advice is like taking medicine, take the wrong pill for what’s ailing you and you may find yourself worse off than before.

What I’m referring to is all of the relationship advice that’s available today. Trying to make sense of it all can make your head spin. If you’re trying to use this information for meeting and attracting women, you may be doing yourself more harm than good. Just because an article is about relating to women, it doesn’t mean that it will be useful to you.

You need to distinguish between advice for people who are already in a relationship and advice for attracting women. The two are completely different and they don’t mix very well.

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Believe it or not, you don’t have to have the good looks of a movie star to get women. Women are turned on more by masculine traits and personality rather than just looks alone. But this doesn’t mean you that you can let your appearance go. Maybe I am stating the obvious here, but there are guys out there who are clueless about looking after their personal appearance. I happen to know a few.

Here are a few suggestions that will improve you appearance:
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Here’s nine useful things to give you the edge in your quest for love.

1.) The power of a smile. A smile shows that you are relaxed and confident. It also relaxes others and is definitely an ice breaker. Add some cockiness to your smile and you’re projecting an alpha male image. A complete turn-on for women.

2.) Dressing well. How you dress can have a dramatic effect on your physical attractiveness. If this is true with respect to female attractiveness (and we’ve all done a double take when the plain Jane at work shows up at a social occasion in a stunning dress), it’s true for male attractiveness. New, stylish clothing that fits well is a must. Another important item: your shoes. This seems to be important to women, so be sure that your shoes are stylish, polished, and clean.
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It’s easy to see why so many guys are confused and clueless about what women really look for in a man. Women sometimes voice a desire for one type of man but then actually choose the opposite type for their mate.

Why is this? The answer is that when women communicate their ideal man, they are expressing a well thought out opinion. This opinion is formulated in the thinking part of the brain. It draws on their past experiences and balances out a lot of pro’s and con’s. It’s logical and makes a lot of sense.
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Continued from part 1.

External changes involve your degree of physical attractiveness. The clothes you wear have a strong effect on the impression that you make on other people. This is especially true with the impression that you make with a woman.

Another part of physical attractiveness is conveying the impression of being healthy and fit. Depending on your particular situation, this may involve a diet or a workout program. But other elements including your clothes, your posture, and how you move across a room also factor into this.

Now I haven’t mentioned ‘good looks’ or being very handsome for two reasons. First, it isn’t something that you can change (short of plastic surgery). Second, being attractive to women has more to do with “maleness” or being a man. So having a pretty face can help but it’s not needed.

As you well know, men are instinctually attracted to women who are masters of the art of projecting “femaleness”. Their sexiness is more than body proportions alone. It’s their clothing, how they walk, their behavior. It’s curves and softness. All of this adds up to femaleness and the more “female” they are, the more irresistible they are to men.
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If you’re having trouble meeting women, is it possible to land girlfriends without having to make any changes to what you’re doing now? The short answer is probably not. Our lives pretty much continue going the way it always has unless we make a focused effort to change it. So it all starts with personal change. Depending on the individual, some will have to make more changes than others.

These changes will be internal and external. Some of the internal ones will have to do with overcoming fear. Fear of trying out new things. Fear of going out more often to unfamiliar places. And of coarse, the big one: the fear of rejection.

Fear is your greatest enemy because it subverts your efforts at improving your life. It’s only use is in keeping you away from life threatening situations or in preventing to you from actions that cause the loss of your income or the other assets that you have. Rejection by a woman will cause none of these things. No one has ever been maimed or killed by rejection. You won’t even lose your job or home.

Any pain that you feel is caused by you. There’s no need to feel humiliation or to feel like a failure. Small kids learn how to ski more quickly than many adults do. This is because they aren’t burdened by humiliation whenever they fall down. They just pick themselves up and keep going. They’re also having a hell of a good time. There’s no reason why you can’t think of meeting new women as an exciting new adventure.
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