Continued from part 1.

Second Stage – Zeroing in on some commonality through testing, exploration, trial and error, and keen observation. In other words, you’ll be fishing around for something in common. When she’s talking, pay close attention and listen very carefully to what she says and how she says it.

Listen, watch, and note the body language. You’re looking for a common topic that you’ll both find interesting. If her emotion picks up or she talks a great deal about something, then you’ll know that she has an interest or is passionate about the topic.
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The gift of gab is not a gift. It’s a skill. Like other skills such as playing the guitar or driving a car, it can be learned. A big reason why many guys find dating and meeting women difficult is the whole conversation thing.

What do you say exactly? How do you start it in a way that seems relaxed and natural? How do you keep it going? And most important, how do you connect with this beautiful girl you’ve just met?

Knowing how to converse with anyone whether male or female is indispensable today. It’s usefulness isn’t limited to meeting women.

There’s things like job interviews, enjoying yourself at social gatherings, making friends, fitting in at work, getting new clients, etc., etc. The list is endless.
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In the mating game, men are expected to approach the girl. Given that a lot of women are already in relationships, how are we to know who to approach? The answer is that we should approach anyone that we have an interest in and be social.

If you’ve been practicing your social skills and have made it a habit of talking to new people, then there’s no reason why you can’t approach a girl just to be social. But how can you tell if a girl likes you? The answer is that when you’re talking to her you should be looking for signs of sexual interest in her body language.

If her body language tells you nothing, then your interaction with her remains strictly social. If her body is giving you clear signals that she’s sexually interested, you’ve got a green light to swing into action. Some women use body language deliberately, others aren’t even aware that their bodies are giving away their feelings of attraction.
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As I mentioned in a previous post, being an introvert isn’t a bad thing. As a matter of fact, it is a strength because it makes you unique.

Being different in a positive way is what makes you stand out in a crowd. It means you’re not average, you don’t blend in. The day you can stand out in a confident way where you make no bones about the person you truly are, is the day you’ve gained power over your life.

Trying to covert yourself into an extrovert is either impossible or extremely difficult. Why put so much effort into becoming a second rate extrovert when it’s so much easier to just play up your strengths as an introvert?

There are many women out there who are attracted to thinking people who have depth, that is, introverts.

But in order to get your strengths to work for you, you absolutely must get over your shyness. Whether it’s a general social shyness or just a shyness around women, shyness severely limits what you can get out of life. As I’ve stated previously, introversion and shyness are too different things.
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Bars, nightclubs, and parties have a bad reputation for a lot of men and women alike. The atmosphere is loud and harsh. Alcohol is flowing and people are drunk.

Women have their defenses dialed all the way up. How are they to know that you aren’t just another low life pick up artist? Their suspicions and defenses are justified because many losers set up shop in these kinds of places.

Here are some alternatives with a relaxed setting where women have their guard down:

1.) Bookstores. A Bookstore is a great non-threatening spot to meet women. Unlike the loud, smoke filled, alcohol laden bar, a bookstore is a pleasant cozy place.
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