In in a previous post, I discussed how the wrong body language will kill your efforts at attracting girls. When you’ve mastered your body language, there is something else that can also defeat you: what your face is telling her.

The human face has a core set of five muscles that are used to convey the basic emotional states of happiness, anger, fear, surprise, sadness and disgust.

But there are up to 19 additional muscles that assist in conveying other emotions. Evolution has wired our brains to show our emotional states through these facial muscles.

Our facial expressions truly are a window into our soul. Unless you’re a trained actor, it’s very hard to cover up your feelings of the moment.

Most people are fairly good at reading facial expressions. However, women excel at this. If you’re out meeting women and you aren’t enjoying yourself, then you should save yourself the trouble and do something else.

If you’re feeling stressed, tired, bored, nervous, or any emotion that says you aren’t enjoying the company of a girl you’ve just met, your facial demeanor will give you away. You can try to fake enjoyment but it will come across as forced. You will seem a little “off”.

If you view the whole process of meeting women as exhausting work that demands a lot of energy, you may want to rethink your approach. Because your lack of enjoyment will show and you’ll have little chance of success.

Meeting an attractive woman should be like a stimulating drug. Personally, I find the whole process incredibly exhilarating. There’s just no other feeling like it when she starts talking and laughing.

If it feels like a lot of work, it may be that you’re trying too hard to score or to get a number. Relax and learn to enjoy the entire experience, not just the meeting women part. That means enjoying the band that’s playing, or the jokes being tossed around.

If some people are doing something that interests you, then participate. People at the establishment will get to know you. Over time, this means that they’ll greet you. This is called social validation which elevates your status in the eyes of women. When this happens, your enjoyment and relaxed, confident demeanor will be genuine. She will know this and find it very attractive.

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