As I mentioned in a previous post, being an introvert isn’t a bad thing. As a matter of fact, it is a strength because it makes you unique.

Being different in a positive way is what makes you stand out in a crowd. It means you’re not average, you don’t blend in. The day you can stand out in a confident way where you make no bones about the person you truly are, is the day you’ve gained power over your life.

Trying to covert yourself into an extrovert is either impossible or extremely difficult. Why put so much effort into becoming a second rate extrovert when it’s so much easier to just play up your strengths as an introvert?

There are many women out there who are attracted to thinking people who have depth, that is, introverts.

But in order to get your strengths to work for you, you absolutely must get over your shyness. Whether it’s a general social shyness or just a shyness around women, shyness severely limits what you can get out of life. As I’ve stated previously, introversion and shyness are too different things.

The world is full of confident and successful introverts who are not shy. Many of them are quite socially adept. Johnny Carson comes to mind as an introvert who had exceptional social skills and could be very charming whenever he wanted to be.

In light of the necessity to get over your shyness, here are some suggestions:

1.) You must make the effort to go out and socialize.
Join groups and activities where you’re among people that you must socialize with. What these groups are will depend on your interests. Are you an outdoors man? Then join hiking clubs and get involved with the organizational aspects of planning trips. This will guarantee a lot of interaction with other people.

Other activities might center around your church, or gym, or professional organization or a club. Through this kind of exposure, you will get more comfortable at relating to people of either sex. For all you know, you might just find the girl of your dreams this way.

2.) Try overcoming your shyness by taking small baby steps.
First, you can show the world that you’re a friendly and approachable person. This means smiling and saying hello to people. Over time, it will only seem natural to these people that you engage in some small talk with them. Not very good at small talk? Then read this post on the topic.

It’s important that you take control over your interactions with people. Don’t wait for others to make the first move. This passive approach takes too long and does nothing to improve your confidence at approaching others.

Remember that people are different and that there will be some who won’t reciprocate your overtures. There are as many reasons for this as there are people. They may be shy themselves or they may have other difficulties or issues.

You can also take baby steps in the way that you approach women. You might start your small talk with women who are average or even less than average looking with whom you feel comfortable with. Over time, start talking to more attractive women.

Tags: attracting girls, how to attract women

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