Totally agree, i liked this girl and was rejected, got on with life and two months later she’s different around me. Good advice.

Hear Hear! I’m pretty impressed by your advice.

You’re right that it is vitally important that guys be seen as a sexual entity if they want to get out of the friend zone. How that happens though may differ from guy to guy.

Sometimes the shift in perception may happen on its own, but it could take years (2 years for me) – so its better one takes charge and spearheads that change.

When she talks to you as a friend, you should react as any polite guy would do by saying the appropriate things then shifting the conversation to something else. When you are talking to her it’s OK to give another attractive girl a quick glance. Have conversations with the other girls in your office. Have conversations with other guys in your office. If you have prospects with other girls, go out with them. You have your own life that’s independent of hers.

This will either cause her to completely cool off with you OR it may intrigue her and make you more of a challenge to her. If she gets intrigued, then you have escaped the friend zone and she is seeing you now as a sexual entity. You are taking a chance doing this but being her best friend wasn’t what you wanted anyway.

Here is a list of some masculine traits:

being aggressive
being independent
not being overly emotional
being objective
being dominant
being active
being competitive
being logical
being direct
knowing the ways of the world
being adventurous
making decisions easily
never crying
acting as a leader
being self-confident
being ambitious

These are traits that taken together project “maleness”. Just as we guys are attracted to feminine traits in a woman, women are attracted to masculine traits in a guy. So when a woman tells you that you are too nice, she’s really saying that you’re not projecting enough masculine traits to interest her. The other thing about being too nice and overly compliant, is that she may think that there’s something not quite right with you. That you’re too easy or perhaps desperate to get a girlfriend. This diminishes your “worth” to her.

Don’t let the list overwhelm you because you don’t have too project all of them to a high degree. You want to be “who you are” yet be attractive as a man. Choose the ones that you already have and don’t suppress them when you’re with a lady. However, being confident is one of the more important traits that you should put some extra focus on. Any one of the above traits if over done or not done in a natural way can make a person seem like a jerk.