A lot of people are shy about meeting new people. Add to this the normal discomfort that people feel on their first dates and it’s easy to see why keeping the conversation flowing on your first date can be a real challenge. Here’s a few pointers to help with this:

1.) Focus and remember. At the beginning when she’s talking about some general things about herself such as her interests, likes, dislikes, etc, you need to focus on and remember anything said that was unusual or that she had strong feelings about.

Also remember anything that you are genuinely curious about. These bits of information will give you topics that you can ask her to expound upon. You can say “How do you feel about that?” or “what’s the story behind that?”
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When you’re on a first date, it’s easy to get all caught up in demonstrating, what a fine, strapping male you are. Don’t forget that you’re also evaluating her worthiness as well.

One important thing that you must know about your date is compatibility. If your interest is establishing a long term relationship, then there has to be something that the two of you are on the same page about.

A previous post discussed how to keep conversation flowing on a first date by being focused on and remembering interesting and unusual things that she happens to say.
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Are you an introvert? If you are, don’t be too hard on yourself because you’ve got a lot going for you. To start with I’d like to make it clear that introversion is not the same as shyness.

Because introverts get their energy from within themselves rather than from others (as extroverts do) they tend to lag in the social skills. This can make them awkward and uncomfortable in social situations. So introverts can suffer from shyness but there are many introverts who do not.

Know that you are not alone in the world. Thirty percent of the world’s population are introverts.

Some examples of successful introverts: Johnny Carson, Neil Armstrong, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Jerry Seinfeld, Tiger Woods, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, and Steven Spielberg.

When it comes to getting women, being an introvert means that you will go after certain types of women that are compatible with your personality type. It would also be advisable to meet women in places more suitable to your temperament. So this probably rules out the noisy bars and night clubs of your extroverted brethren.
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Here’s a classic scenario that’s been happening all over the world since the beginning of time (well, not really). You notice a beautiful girl and she becomes aware of your glances. In the span of a few seconds you decide to do nothing and then just go about your business. This is a very common daily experience that a lot of guys won’t admit to.

Sometimes a brave soul will just go for it and approach her anyway. When he reaches her with a blanked out mind and a racing pulse, he does or says something causing an awkward moment for both him and the girl. Later that day he tries his best to suppress all memories of his humiliation.
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Bars, nightclubs, and parties have a bad reputation for a lot of men and women alike. The atmosphere is loud and harsh. Alcohol is flowing and people are drunk.

Women have their defenses dialed all the way up. How are they to know that you aren’t just another low life pick up artist? Their suspicions and defenses are justified because many losers set up shop in these kinds of places.

Here are some alternatives with a relaxed setting where women have their guard down:

1.) Bookstores. A Bookstore is a great non-threatening spot to meet women. Unlike the loud, smoke filled, alcohol laden bar, a bookstore is a pleasant cozy place.
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There’s plenty of obvious female turn offs like poor hygiene, ratty clothing, rotten teeth, being a total jerk, laughing milk through your nose, etc.

But there are also subtle turn offs for women that you may be doing without knowing it.

These types of turn offs signal her that you’re weak or lacking the qualities that women instinctively desire.

These turn offs are:

1.) Not having enough confidence. Women are attracted to strength. This has its origins back in the days when men had to hunt for their food and had to physically protect their woman from real dangers as well as from other men. When a man feels strong, capable, and in control, it shows in his behavior.
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First dates can be a stressful time for most people. This is especially true for the guy who’s been out of the dating scene for a while.

This stress comes from the common fears about not knowing what to say or do with someone you know very little about. Fears about things going badly and rejection also play a big part.

Knowing what to do is the best way to cope with this stress. Here are a some first date pointers.

1.) It’s probably not the best idea to take her to a movie. Why is that? Because you can’t do any talking which makes it impossible to find out what sort of person she is.

It’s also done too much. Doing the usual standard stuff isn’t the recipe for a fun date.

You could try an activity based date such as hiking, skiing, wine tasting, amusement park, driving range, or a softball game. Knowing something of your date’s interests helps a lot with your choice of place or activity.

After you’ve finished your activity, eating out at a nice place is a good idea. Avoid going to a super expensive or fancy place as this makes it seem as if you’re trying very hard to impress her or buy her.
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In in a previous post, I discussed how the wrong body language will kill your efforts at attracting girls. When you’ve mastered your body language, there is something else that can also defeat you: what your face is telling her.

The human face has a core set of five muscles that are used to convey the basic emotional states of happiness, anger, fear, surprise, sadness and disgust.

But there are up to 19 additional muscles that assist in conveying other emotions. Evolution has wired our brains to show our emotional states through these facial muscles.

Our facial expressions truly are a window into our soul. Unless you’re a trained actor, it’s very hard to cover up your feelings of the moment.

Most people are fairly good at reading facial expressions. However, women excel at this. If you’re out meeting women and you aren’t enjoying yourself, then you should save yourself the trouble and do something else.
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Believe it or not, you don’t have to have the good looks of a movie star to get women. Women are turned on more by masculine traits and personality rather than just looks alone. But this doesn’t mean you that you can let your appearance go. Maybe I am stating the obvious here, but there are guys out there who are clueless about looking after their personal appearance. I happen to know a few.

Here are a few suggestions that will improve you appearance:
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For most guys, there will be times when in the course of a conversation with a girl, the topic being discussed comes to an end and they can’t think of what to say next.

It isn’t because there’s nothing left to say, it’s because they’re temporarily stuck. If they had a little more time they could get unstuck but the girl is standing there waiting.

The pressure is on and something has to be said now! If you allow the conversation to end awkwardly, you’ll probably kill any chances of generating attraction with her. So what do you say?
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